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Emotional Abuse of Children
Parents and caregivers who emotionally abuse children do these children a massive amount of harm. Below, in a combined list by competent professionals, you will find the specific actions included in emotional abuse of children. Constant criticism Belittling—put-downs, name calling and intimidating body language Rejection Continuous yelling Committing violence against the child or even threatening violence Allowing the child to witness physical or emotional abuse of another Withholding love, support and guidance Neglecting basic needs Destruction of one’s pet or valued possession Threat of abandonment (including suicide) Not allowing the expression of anger or sadness therefore curtailing the development of the full range of emotions The above emotional abuse of…
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Subjugation and Abuse
When I refer to chronic subjugation, I am speaking about a psychological condition that manifests itself in an ongoing pattern of destructive and servant-like deference. This condition occurs through voluntary compliance; it is imposed not from without but from within. The heart cry of each of us is to be liked, accepted—yes, loved. Individuals may give in to chronic subjugation because they fear abandonment, rejection, retaliation, feel guilty, or simply have a hunger to please. Whatever the reason (and there are many), these individuals persistently place the opinions, preferences, values, desires, and needs of others before their own. This occurs so often that chronic subjugation slowly smothers those who practice…
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The Stress of Yes
Chronic subjugation begins in the mind, the battlefield where choices are made. This particular battle involves choosing truth over compliance. “Shall I say what I really believe, or shall I choose to please no matter what it may cost me?” We must choose to either speak the truth appropriately or comply unwillingly. When we choose the second option, self-condemnation reigns, and stress and anxiety are the result. When a pattern of chronic subjugation develops, subjugation becomes an automatic choice through which an individual habitually and unconsciously attempts to please another person or group. Those who chronically subjugate often ask themselves, Why did I say yes? I have too much on…
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Inner Conflict
Seasons have changed from the last addition to this blog. And, likewise, the seasons of our lives. Immeasurable inner conflict has all but paralyzed me emotionally and mentally. Dilemma: to choose between subjugating to tragedy or choosing to grieve the unthinkable loss. To shut down and just exist? Become an embittered person? Push through the pain? To move forward regardless of the cost? The struggle is exhausting. Last spring, through an incredible freak accident, our family lost Jack. Jack, our two-year-old beautiful grandson. Remaining hard to believe, surely, this horrific nightmare will end. Nothing can remove the tender, continuous ache caused by his absence; not even professional grief counseling. Thoughts…
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Subjugation
While each individual’s story has significant differences, what unites them is even more important. We all share a common behavior that occurs in many relationships to one degree or another. Through extensive research in the field of psychology, the behavior known as subjugation has been identified as one of the major schemas or patterns of thinking that can impair a life. If it is present in a chronic pattern, it can bring about unbearable, excruciating pain, humiliation, victimization, loss of self, and even death. I call this destructive condition chronic subjugation. Chronic subjugation is far more common than most people realize. The condition is no respecter of status, physical appearance,…
Psychotherapist – National Board Certified – Licensed Professional Counselor